7 Powerful Questions Psychologists Say Build Stronger Kids

Maybe it’s time to stop asking kids, “How was school today?”

As there are seven much more powerful questions that flip the script and spark real conversation, not to mention build character in the child.

This, according to psychologist and author Amy Morin.

So what are they?

No. 1. What was the best part of your day? You help your child’s brain scan for positives, training them toward gratitude and optimism. On the other hand, we don’t want to sweep problems under the rug.

So No. 2. is, what mistake did you learn from today? Then you help normalize failure. You teach them that mistakes aren’t shameful. They’re teachers in disguise.

No. 3. Who were you proud of today? Suddenly, your kid starts looking for what’s good in others. You grow empathy by the question alone.

No. 4. What’s one thing you could have made better today? Not a complaint, an opening. You give them space to problem solve, to name what’s missing without spiralling into negativity.

No. 5. Who did you help today? This one rewires their focus. When you ask this regularly, kindness becomes a reflex.

No. 6. What was the most interesting thing you Learned today? Grades aside, you fuel curiosity. The moment they see your eyes light up, they learn that learning itself is cool.

And No. 7. What’s something new you want to try? The courage question. It pushes them toward creativity, bravery and growth. No perfection required.

So if you see what’s happening here, you shift from interrogating to inviting. You move from report card talk to soul talk.

And in doing so, you build a bridge not just to your kid’s day, but to their world.

We’re reminded that real parenting isn’t about control. It’s about connection.

When you start asking these questions, you’re helping your child develop emotional awareness, empathy, and resilience, all while deepening your bond.

The secret isn’t fancy psychology. It’s curiosity. Your curiosity.

So next time, maybe skip the how was school? And try one of these. Watch your child pause, think, and maybe even smile.

That’s the moment you start raising a kid who’s not just successful, but mentally strong. Wishing you peace, my friend.

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